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It really does take some education, some communication, and a lot of forethought to get this one right.First, many but not all situations where people are given the title of “Unicorn Hunter” follow one very specific model.For some reason, a ton of people seemed upset at your post and started replying with a bunch of hostile, snarky comments that didn’t describe you at all. Not knowing what they meant, you asked your good friend Google what a “Unicorn Hunter” was, and you figured that out. Why did all of these people have such a major stick up their butt? The fact that you are here, reading this, implies that you care.They told you that you were doing it wrong, that you are bad for wanting to find someone, and that you should go read a book. A “Unicorn” is that rare, mythical figure that many couples look for, a polyamorous, bisexual woman (Yay! ), someone who might want to date both you and your partner. That means that “Unicorn Hunters” are a couple who are looking for that person to join their Dyad, to make a Triad. If you have a conversation with a new-to-Poly couple about what they are looking for and start asking some probing questions, many answers come out that are pretty consistent. You are willing to listen/read/learn and figure this out to get it right. There are some challenges between where you are now and where you want to go (likely, I’m making assumptions too!Really, people need to exercise discretion about a great many things in their life, this is no different from any somewhat controversial choice that a person might make, based on the morals and values of their community.However, as you might guess, I’m going to point out that there are some problems.If anyone has ever described the idea of societal privilege to you, it’s kinda like that.The core of it is, you can be a good person, doing things that seem reasonable from your perspective, and still be part of a problem.
They don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, and neither do they want to have to answer questions or justify their decisions in the workplace, so they have decided to remain “in the closet” about this whole experiment.Couples usually discover such a woman is almost impossible to find. So, you just posted on this really cool Poly forum that your friend told you about.You posted that you and your partner are ready to open up your relationship and find a special person to add to it. One thing that many of them said was that you are a “Unicorn Hunter”.One of the first problems is when you don’t talk about your preexisting expectations up front.It is critical to have a conversation with prospective partners, before there is a relationship, where you discuss how “out” you are wiling to be.
The unicorn is expected to be with both of them, and will not be allowed to have any other partners.